The letters begin

Dear Laurel,

Thanks so much for this long and thoughtful e-mail. It was good to write it down, because no one else in the family can really understand what is needed and wanted unless they know what that might be.

What type of things would be helpful to write about Jordan? In other words, how can the truth be told--but the truth that will really mean something? Sometimes someone can put in a detail that is not helpful or leave out one that is. What are the guidelines for acceptance? Surely there is something more than a number on an IQ score-sheet. Surely common sense that sees he is not able to be on his own because he is certainly developmentally disabled. How could anyone say otherwise, especially since this happened from the womb on, all the way back to an impaired gene? That is developmentally impaired from the getgo I would say. He obviously didn't develop in a normal, healthy way that would give him the possibility of handling his own life in any way at all. What do they expect to happen to him if you die, his father dies, his grandparents die? Do they really believe in warehousing people instead of helping them? Is this what our society is supposed to be about? I certainly hope not.

I will write more when I know more about the guidelines. With love, M